Reader’s Question:

I’m with a guy who’s trying to be very “touchy feely,” and I’m not comfortable. Why are men always trying to be physical too fast? What do I do? Should I break up with him?

Girl’s Answer:

The good news is he's sexually attracted to you! He's just being a guy; although his actions are not to be excused, it’s good to understand where he’s coming from. It will always be an unspoken rule that the woman is the one that has to set the physical boundaries. Men will always try. We can't blame them for trying; they don’t know what you’re willing to let them touch and they are attracted to us! The man you don't want to be with is the man who continually tries to go past the boundaries once you've made them. Like when a man is holding me and his hands try to go up north, my way of setting the boundaries is gently taking his hands and moving them back down to my waist, so he knows that he’s not permitted to go there yet.  Also, you can just spell it out. "I don't want to ________ until _________." Then he knows where the line is and knows what would be disrespectful to you. The point is to speak up or act in a way that shows where you stand. No need to break up with him. Just communicate your boundaries either verbally, nonverbally or both.

Midori is the girl behind www.datingadvicefromagirl.com. Think old fashioned Carrie Bradshaw dishing out mother approved dating advice. She currently resides in Seattle.