How to be the Cool Chick Every Guy Secretly Wants to Sleep With- Part II

In part I, I mentioned five points that make women attractive to the opposite sex so much so that men find the need to flock around these types of women. These women are the “guy magnets” that seem to have some kind of spell on the men they are around but who don’t seem to be trying to get that attention. Usually they don’t even realize what they’re doing. What else makes them so appealing? How can you be the kind of woman who men feel comfortable around but who they also secretly desire?

1. Don’t talk trash anyone

There’s something very unattractive about a woman who talks trash about other women. First it highlights a woman’s negativity. ALWAYS a bad thing. Second, it makes a woman look insecure and unsure of herself because she feels the need to trash talk someone else to make herself look better. Thirdly, men realize you are untrustworthy. Fourthly, you look like you don’t have enough to do with your time if you have to concern yourself with other people’s business. A woman without hobbies is not a pretty thing. Nothing good comes out of gossiping around men. Save it for your girl friends.

2. Laugh at their jokes

You might not realize just how beautiful the sound of a woman’s laughter is. It’s like foreplay for men! Okay, maybe I shouldn’t go that far. The point is that men want to feel successful in anything they pursue, including feeling like they are succeeding in being entertaining to the women they are around. When you laugh at their jokes, it makes them feel like they are accomplishing that. It’s a sign that you are having fun, something that men want to make sure is happening when a woman is around them. Just make it a practice to let out a roaring, belly laugh out when you do find something funny. Don’t hold it back. Causing a woman to really get carried away in laughter is such a pleasant sight for men to behold. The principle is basically that men want to please you. The more they can tell that you’re having a good time with them, the more they’re having a good time with you! And the more they’re having a good time with you, the more you’ll have men want to be in your presence.

3. Be affectionate with your guy friends but not to the point that it is sexual

There’s a difference between a woman who every man can see is an outright flirt (other men who are interested will become jealous—not a good thing if you want to be the Belle of the ball) She dresses for attention and reveals too much of the goodies. It’s obvious to men who see her that she is starving for male attention, a sign that she’s the kind of girl who’s going to need constant affirmation to keep her happy. You don’t want to be this girl. You want your male friends to experience your affection, ahem—and I mean your nonsexual affection. You’d be surprised how little affection men get. If they don’t have an affectionate mom, sibling, or a significant other in close proximity to where they live, most grown men probably don’t get regular doses of hugs, literal pats on the back or back rubs. That’s where a great female friend comes in. Men just don’t touch their male buddies. It’s just awkward. That’s where a great female friend comes in. Women are soft, tender, and their presence and touch can be powerfully nurturing. The more you touch your male friends (non-sexually) the closer they will feel to you, and the more warm, tender feelings they will have for you. Every man needs to be touched regularly. They don’t know this, think about this, or realize this, but when they do get it, they will benefit from it.

4. Don’t sleep around

I don’t care what century we are living in. I don’t care what the feminists say regarding this. The truth will never change: men will always be drawn to virgins. There is an unchanging, invariable principle that chastity will always have it’s appeal. If a man were given the choice to be with a virgin or a slut, it’s pretty obvious what he’d choose. Maybe it’s his pride. He doesn’t want to be compared to anybody else. Maybe it’s an innate masculine tendency to have a certain amount of possessiveness for a woman, this think inside every man that makes him want a woman only for himself. (which is a good thing) Remember this: “What men desire is a virgin who is a whore.” ~Edward Dahlbert.

5. Be generous with encouraging words and compliments

Every man needs an “Atta ‘boy!” every now and then. A pat on the back. Someone to tell him he’s got something going for him. Someone to let him know that what he does gets noticed. Be the girl who notices. Notices when he makes an extra effort. Notices when he looks good. Notices when he scores, or shoots or makes a touchdown or wins something. He craves the praise of a sincere compliment. He will never admit to this.

Women are never disarmed by compliments; men always are. ~Oscar Wilde, An Ideal Husband, 1899

When you see a woman who can go nowhere without a staff of admirers, it is not so much because they think she is beautiful, it is because she has told them they are handsome. ~Jean Giraudoux

Follow these ten principles and you’ll notice men will treat you differently!

Midori is the girl behind www.datingadvicefromagirl.com. Think old fashioned Carrie Bradshaw dishing out mother approved dating advice. She currently resides in Seattle.